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My most important characteristic is actually that the stylist be in a quiet salon. I don’t like salons that blast loud music and have lots of people running around. But beyond that, I just don’t want to be pressured into something. My stylist needs to listen to what I’m looking for and then give me input that isn’t completely opposite of the look I want.

Since I know jack about cutting hair, I look for someone who can take my basic idea of “Something that doesn’t require a lot of maintenance” and give me just that. I also look for someone who’s not going to talk to me or at me through the whole thing; I like to zone out in the chair, especially since with my glasses off I can’t see what he or she is doing.

I’m actually seeing a new stylist this weekend to get my hair cut before Thanksgiving, as my previous stylist was in a car accident and can’t come back to work 🙁 I trust the salon I’m going to; I have yet to have a stylist there that wasn’t at least decent. (Don’t tell my husband; I want to cut it all off.)

I don’t know if scared of is the right word. My husband just thinks I look better with long hair. I prefer short because it’s easier to take care of 🙂

I expect whoever is styling/cutting my hair to do what I ask them to do, regardless if they think it suits my face or my hair. After all, I’m *paying* them, and it’s *my* hair.

The last time I went in, I told the woman what I wanted, and she proceeded to tell me that my hair was too thick & wavy, so the style I wanted would require too much effort & product. I told her I didn’t care, I had a shelf full of product that would be necessary, and told her to give me the style in the photo. Then she told me how it would be “better” if she “modified” the style. She went ahead and “modified” to her own personal specifications, and needless to say, I was not happy, and it looked horrible.

Luckily, my hair grows freakishly fast, so I wasn’t stuck with a horrible style for too long. Well, at least nothing a ponytail holder couldn’t fix.

When it comes to my bangs & trims, I usually just do it myself. Since my hair is pretty wavy, it’s not noticeable if the ends aren’t perfect. When I’ve paid people in the past to trim a specific amount, they’ve taken liberties to cut off what they feel is the “right” amount. Again, it should be *my* decision.

I see what you mean but a stylist can encourage a client to make choices she perhaps was not aware existed. I am a fashion stylist and sometimes I have to tell the client that say, loves purple that it makes her skin sallow. I feel I would not be doing my job not to mention it. Now, she can take my advice and throw it away–for sure. But I am being paid to both advise and follow the clients’s desires–not easy. You might have looked great in the cut but you might have been self conscious about something so drastic. For years, hair stylists always gave me the super short Halle Berry cut because my hair is short and fine. They always explained that it was what “worked” for my hair type. And they were right! But I felt that it aged me and I don’t have a face like Halle so I stopped “working” with my natural hair and went totally Beyonce with wigs. Now, I don’t have to worry about my natural hair type or stylists who remind me of my follicular limits.

A “good” hair stylist is skilled with working the customer’s hair type, AND works WITH the customer to create a style that best complements the customer’s lifestyle, tastes, and looks. I’m always up for trying new stuff so I don’t mind introductions to products so long as no one is pushing stuff onto me.

I definitely agree with everything you said, Christine. I had a series of terrible haircuts (from different stylists) for awhile, and I finally found one who had all of those characteristics above. He was also able to fix my terrible haircut and tell me what all the previous stylist did incorrectly. It turns out, even though I don’t have visually unusual hair (it’s not thick, but it’s not fine either), the texture of each strand is actually unique. My previous stylists were cutting my hair like the rest of their clients’ (pretty much all Caucasian), and they weren’t using the right techniques for my hair (I’m Asian).

I agree, really pushy sales people can stress you out.

I think it’s so important to have someone that understands my hair type. I was seeing a woman who had big curly hair like me, then next time I turned up to see her, someone else had taken over her job and tried to convince me a choppy mullet would work! Uhhh no… I’ve got massive curly hair and would have to spend ages doing it every day. Also gross.
My new guy is a hair mastermind!

I want someone who would LISTEN. There are things you can persuade me to try, but you can’t say OK to what I ask and then do something different (hair 2 inches shorter than what you asked, anyone?). I like some kind of explanation throughout the process instead of a stylist who is condescending. I’ve been with mine for 7 years now, also because he has an eye for what trends would work for my face and personality.

I have problem hair, very thin at the front and very thick at the back and strange growing patterns that affect what I can do.

1) When I go to a new stylist for a sit down I want to see if they can see the issues, if they can’t then they won’t be able to deal with them.

2) I want a great cut not a good blow dry, a great cut means I’ll be able to deal with it at home.

3) Someone who is generous with styling tips and trick and is happy to talk about what they are doing.

I don’t mind product recommendations especially if we can test them in the salon and as long as they aren’t pushy.

Good question, mainly because I can’t think of an answer! Quite honestly my hairdresser is mean. She’s one of those people who doesn’t smile, and she’s always telling me off for using supermarket products. She’s also a REALLY good hairdresser. I have another girl I see at the same salon who isn’t quite as good, but she’s nice!

my hairstylist has been the same since i first cut my hair (and im 24 now)! i trust her as far as cut and colour, but i am aware that i need to find a back up hair stylist..just in case. so i guess i tried 2 more besides her, and didn’t liked them. the first first first thing i look for is someone who KNOWS how to deal with curly hair, as far as styling but more as cutting. my hair is different when its wet or dry, so its something to keep in mind.

I wear a shag razor cut hairstyle and never had a stylist cut it the way I wanted it. I finally just decided to take a razor and try cutting it myself. After awhile it became so easy. I have been cutting my own hair now for over 2 years. Razors are very forgiving.

someone that really knows how to cut hair based on the way it grows.

I have two strong cowlicks in the front and a swirlly in the back making my hair difficult to cut and style. My old hairdresser never commented, she just cut my hair and it was beautiful. So mentioned to me when I had to change to let others know about my growth patterns

Recently I had to change hairdressers because of location. The new hair dresser told me “Oh no worries I’ve cut cowlicks before” Because she didn’t really pay attention and assumed my cowlicks were like everyone elses she’d cut it the same.

Then I hear “Oh my… this is a really strong cowlick” And low and behold I had a style mess.

After a lifetime of many bad haircuts, these are what I look for…
1) They’re polite. No snottiness. They don’t have to be bubbly, especially if it’s fake-nice, but I don’t want to have the stylist talking to other people or on the phone, like I’m not even there. Or making someone feel uncomfortable about their age or weight.

2) They don’t push product. I NEVER return to a stylist that pushes product at me. This goes for spa technicians too. Even if they make a sale, they’ve lost a client.

3) I want them to know what they’re doing. While keeping up to date’s important, not screwing up is more so. I’ve had so many cuts from people that couldn’t get sides even, or never paid attention enough to realize that hair shrinks as it dries.

4) Be professional enough to give a client the requested look, even if they don’t prefer it personally. Yes, stylist should warn about face shape, datedness, etc. But a stylist should never just ignore the client’s wishes.

For me it’s someone who will give you advice about how to care for your hair, tell you why that style will/won’t suit you or your lifestyle, know about health and safety for themselves and you, know about what styles are in and lastly, will take what you want in to account.

As I’m training to be a hair stylist, these are things you must do otherwise you can fail your your assessments.

I have loooonge blonde highlighted hair and found my great hair stylist 12 years ago. I have strayed a couple of times and found some great stylists but nobody beats her. She cuts exactly how much I want off for a trim, never pushes products and is very trendy. I just recently asked for a different shade of blonde, told her what I wanted and got it exactly right the first try!!
Before her, I was trying to grow my hair back out. I am 5’10” and my naturaly blonde hair was down to my butt (that is a lot of hair). I got a bob cut and colored it chocolate brown! Nobody would cut less than 2 inches off my hair until I found her! My hair isn’t as long as before because now I need to lighten it (darn ageing) so there is more damage than before.

My only requirment, Knows how to cut curly hair. I have a mass of frizzy curly hair, and anynone that tries to give me bangs, or cut it dry does not know this type of hair.

If I could just find a stylist that knew what inches and centimeters actually looked like I’d be golden. I usually just ask for a trim of a couple of centimeters and usually leave with way more than that taken off…

A great stylist must be aware of trends but not force a client into adopting a trend that’s not suitable for her. I think stylists should also consider a client’s face shape and skin tone (for coloring hair) to enhance a client’s beauty. Most important of all is the ability to listen!

One of my sisters-in-law goes to a terrible hairdresser. My in law is outrageously frugal and clueles about style so she doesn’t care about hair STYLE but more about how little she pays for her cut (“she charges me $15!”). Well, she always wears this Pat Benatar circa 1983 cut. No stylist should give her client that look! So what I’m saying is a good stylist should never give someone hair that came from “Fast Times at Ridgemont High”. No matter how much or how little they charge, the client should always leave looking…contemporary, modern, au courant.

1) My hair is really fine, so if a hairstylist is unable to work with my hair, I wish they would recommend someone in the shop that would be able to do a better job. Fine hair can be absolutely ruined by the wrong or inexperienced hairdresser.
2) I like someone to concentrate on my hair and not jabber all the way through the process.
3) Not doing what I ask for. At this point, I know what works and what doesn’t work on my hair. Don’t try to talk me into something else.
4) Complaining about how hard my hair is to work with; Thanks for pointing that out…never knew that before!

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