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I usually just fake-laugh and brush it off. But yeah, youre right, makeup is about me and not others. People need to realize that

My mom freaks out when I’m wearng darker lipstick and thinks it’s black. I’ve reminded her countless times that I don’t own black lipstick, but she still insists that somehow I’ve magically obtained black lipstick and freaks out over and over. It makes me ready self-conscious and makes me sad because when I wear dark lipstick I always feel confident that I’m rocking it until she says something.

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Aw thank you 🙂 I try not to, but she does it every time even though I reassure her it’s not! You’d think she wouldn’t care since I’m 21! Haha

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If it wouldn’t be a financial hardship for you, buy some black lipstick and wear it around your mom. Tell her “THIS is black lipstick. This is what I look like in it. If I don’t look like this, I am not wearing black lipstick.”

Hautecore (the matte black MAC lipstick) was promoted on Black Friday, first hitting the site on Thanksgiving, and is currently sold out, but listed as “COMING SOON” because it is slated to be part of the Punk Couture collection being released online on December 26th. It should be in stores first week of January, but I don’t recall the date. Definitely take a look for this one, because of all the black lipsticks I’ve had, this has to be the nicest. I’m not usually a fan of black lipstick, to be honest… definitely a winner. 🙂

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I’m late to the comment party, but I think Wet ‘n Wild Fantasy Makers has a pretty good black lipstick on the cheap. It might be a good option if you’re on a budget.

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I think the Wet n Wild Fergie Collection has one as well (called Pagan Angel), but from the reviews I read, it applies rather sheer and patchy. Good luck with your search!

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Usually, I say that I wear makeup because I want to, not because society expects me to. Like Christine, it’s also a creative outlet for me; I began experimenting with makeup after I stopped painting and drawing.

I like that last bit “it’s not about them.” I feel like too often people around me try to stifle my sense of style because they have an issue with it, it’s my body/face! I can do what I want!

If it was coming from someone like my mother (who has good taste and the best of intentions) I might actually listen and potentially adjust the look a bit. If it was coming from other family (who aren’t big fans of makeup) I be polite but probably not change anything.

In a work context (which has fortunately never happened) I guess it would depend. If I knew I’d kinda stepped over the line I’d probably suck it up and change it, but if I thought I was made up appropriately I’m not sure how I’d take it. I guess it would depend who was calling me out, I’d rather not offend my boss just to wear red lipstick, but if it was a co-worker or subordinate I’d ignore it probably.

As for random strangers, I think I’d find it rude. I’ve certainly never gone up to someone I don’t know just to criticise how they’re dressed. If I thought they were being well meaning (but hadn’t worded it well) I’d probably take it politely, but if not I think I’d be rude back and tell them to mind their own business.

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Depending on what criticism it is, what the critic’s relationship to me, and whether it’s solicited or not. For the most part, though, I’d react exactly like Christine would.

It depends on how the criticism is given. If it’s constructive and given in a way to improve whatever I am doing then I’ll appreciate it, but if it’s someone who doesn’t like it just by their personal opinion I just ignore it. I wear makeup for only one person, and that person is myself. If I love my makeup and feel confident with how it looks, then I don’t really care what others think!

“See this face? MINE, not yours. I do what I want.” 🙂 I will never understand why some people care so much about what other people choose to do when it doesn’t affect them. Now, if a job has a certain policy on what’s acceptable then I have no problem following that; otherwise, I wear whatever I feel like putting on my face.

I’ve been fortunate enough to not get criticized much, at least not to my face; not since my mom picked on me when I was 13 (and her makeup is no shining example of how to do it right, anyway). Once in a while, a friend may say something like, “I don’t think color makeup is appropriate to wear in public” (someone actually said this to me in a makeup group recently). To this, I respond by stating “I consider makeup to be a self-expression, and color preferences to be an extension of the personality. Just because something is not for you does not make it wrong for others. Be careful when criticizing colors, as this can come across as a personal insult to the tastes of those who enjoy those colors.” This is the most tactful and fair way I can think of to address these differences, because we are all entitled to our preferences without being made to feel bad. Other than that, I have been trolled twice this year on the internet, both times by rather rude, mean people who had no reason to say anything to me at all other than to try and hurt me because they were jerks. Lucky me, both offenders chose the same original line: “You look like a hooker.” In these cases, I deleted the comments and shrugged it off because while it actually did bother me a bit, I had to remember the source, and just remind myself that only someone really sad on the inside would go to so much trouble to try and hurt a total stranger for kicks. Sometimes, you just have to roll with it!

What a smart, healthy approach, Christine! It really upsets me how common it is to see people callously criticizing other women, when it comes to fashion in general, giving absolutely unsolicited opinions and advice. Even though I’m mostly a neutral/minimal makeup wearer (and therefore rarely get those irrelevant comments) it always makes me crazy whenever I see people telling other women crap like “but why do you wear this, men don’t like too much makeup!” or “why are you hiding behind makeup?” whenever they see something bolder or less conventional.

Newsflash, people wear makeup for a variety of reasons, not only to make themselves pretty according to your conception of beauty!

Thank you! I had a male friend (briefly) who responded to learning I am a Makeup Artist and Beauty Blogger by telling me he doesn’t like makeup, and thinks women are beautiful naturally, and that makeup only ruined that. He went on to imply that women only wear makeup because the media has made us all “insecure” and we need to get over it. I became incensed, and told him, “What makes you think we do it FOR YOU?” I tried to explain to this person that women usually wear makeup because they enjoy it, and it is a form of self-expression, NOT a way to hide imperfections, or to pretend we’re someone we are not. He didn’t believe me, and insisted we’re all just a bunch of insecure fools. Needless to say, this is now an “ex” friend, as I have no time for anyone who thinks so little of me or any other woman who makes a conscious choice to enjoy cosmetics for the sheer joy of a love for color, products, and makeup arts. Some people just don’t get it, but that’s no excuse to offend the people who do get it.

I received more criticism when I was younger, from other girls in high school. Most people leave me to my own expression, now. Back then, I would take a similar route, reminding those who had an issue with it that 1) I did not put it on with the intentions of impressing them 2) I look gaw-juss 3) “Why take it off? So that I can appear bland like you?” I was snarkier in those days. I look back at my older pictures and still think that I looked pretty darn pretty 🙂

This topic finds me waxing all philosophical. For me, It entirely depends on the nature of the criticism and how it is worded. If it is mean-spirited or intended to hurt, I’ll shrug it off. If it is intended to be helpful, I would certainly take the time to listen and assess whether or not it makes sense for me personally. As someone with perfectionist tendencies, I believe there is always room for improvement so good-hearted criticism is welcome. However, we all get the final say and realizing what other’s think is irrelevant plays a big part in developing our uniqueness; our own individual styles. I will never understand the need to cut other people down for what they like, what they are wearing, etc, It’s all completely subjective and surely our differences are what make it possible to have choices in the first place. Criticizing with the intent of putting others down does not elevate you: It makes you shallow and petty. When you act like this, no surprise the others surrounding you share these same tendencies. Watch your back, when it is turned, sadly, you’re probably next.

The process of discussion on a forum such a this can often lead to new attitudes regarding products, great ideas for multiple uses of products, useful information from others on how they approach various challenges. Keeping it open and positive makes it so much more rewarding.

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I agree that the type, intention, and WHO it’s coming from can make me consider what they say, and frankly, even the snarkiest criticism, I do try to consider what they’re REALLY trying to say and if it’s valid or how might I improve in the future (for all things) – to a degree.

Great point, Wendy!

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This is true. If I feel that someone is giving me genuine advice with good intentions, and it’s someone with good taste, I’d probably reevaluate whatever it is they took issue with. If I just feel like someone is trying to be smart/petty, I’d brush that shi*t right off! LOL

It really depends on who says something and what the criticism is about. If a close friend finds that a particular look ar shade of eyeshadow/lipstick doesn’t really suit my coloring, I might check again in a mirror, as sometimes different lighting can make a difference. If I then find they are right, I might not wear the same look again. But most of the commets I get are from family members who wear no or very little makeup at all and tend to make comments about my more colorful or dramatic looks ( I do like a red or fuchsia lipsticks quite often, and a smokey eye in the evenings). In the beginning I tried to make them understand that it’s my face and therefore my choice, and that for me a colorful makeup is the same as choosing a bright top in the morning. When the comments didn’t stop or decrease in quantity, I stopped giving them an answer at all, apart from “Really? I like it!”

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If I don’t feel 100% confidence in my makeup job that particular day, I might agree with them. Saying that I was in a rush or I was experimenting. But if it’s a look that I thought I look great in, then I ignore them. Usually, it might come from my family if I get any criticism about my makeup.

I like constructive criticism from makeup artists or people who are good with makeup themselves. Tips on smoothing it or refining it. I love dramatic and bold looks, so ”not for everyday” or ”weird” or ”too much makeup” does not sit well with me and I don’t respect those recycled opinions on my creative choices and passion one bit.

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As much crazy stuff as I wear outside sometimes, I don’t usually have people explicitly criticize me. Some people will compliment me (but in a way where you know they’re thinking they’re sarcastic) and I just say “thanks” and carry on. My boyfriend, for example, is not a fan when I wear heavy makeup. He doesn’t say anything if I do, though, because he knows for me it’s an important part of expressing myself. And I would kick him. That too.
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