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Yeah. There’s a few times that come to mind! One thing I used to get told A LOT was that I shouldn’t even bother with shadow or liner. I love all kinds of eye makeup, so f*** that! Also, with foundation, I often get people trying to match me way too light or way too pink/peach rather than golden, which I am. I never thought pink-toned foundation looked right on me, but everyone at the MAC counters insisted I was pink. Finally, one day I asked for a sample in a couple NC shades along with the NW samples, and the chick didn’t want to give the NC ones to me insisting I wasn’t NC and that I would look stupid with it. It ended up matching, and ever since then I steer clear of the pink-toned stuff, and STILL some want to argue with me even after telling me how good my skin looks while I’m wearing a freakin golden foundation. Oh, and with NARS Taos blush the SA snatched it from me and told me “that’s not your color,” and “that’s not made for you.” I applied that right in front of the girl and gave her attitude since it looked hella awesome! 2nd favorite blush to date. I also was being steered away from a bright apricot blush another time, but that person was a little more friendly about it, and she tried it on anyway then was amazed at how good I look in orange blush.

I always do what I want. Because I can. HAHA. I’m awful.

Not awful – you’re awesome! I’ve fought with MAC about foundations, too! Can’t believe that girl took the NARS from you, though. Smh.

I can’t believe that anyone would tell you not to wear green eye shadow! It always looks amazing on you!

I’ve been told not to wear blues, since they make my eyes look faded, but I still do it sometimes. I’ve also been told that dark lipsticks would be too much of a contrast with my pale skin, but I wear them all the time and get a lot of compliments when I do. So much for recommendations…

Kate, I agree, I love the pop of color and the contrast a bright or dark lip gives pale skin! I’m not extremely pale, but I’m light to light-medium, and people try to tell me it will make me look like a clown. If that’s the case, so be it! I will walk around looking like a clown…a sexy clown, that is!

Ditto on dark colors for light skin. I like the contrasting look, and when I first started wearing makeup the only things I would do were rather gothy. Some people said it made me look even more sickly than usual (like other pale skinned ladies, I’ve got that anemia/flu chic skintone sometimes), but I really like how it makes my features stand out!

I’ve always been told I shouldn’t wear orange reds, bronzes, and other very warm colors because I’m very fair and cool-toned – but those are exactly the colors I’m attracted to! I still wear them anyway. However, I am advised not to wear black eyeliner and that has been good advice – it often looks too harsh on my skintone. Great question!

I’ve been told the same thing. I really don’t like myself in bright orange or yellow but I’ll wear reds regardless.

I was “matched” to MAC Pro Longwear foundation in NC45 once,which is hilarious because I’m an NC/NW 20-25. Guess the artist saw I wasn’t caucasian nor east Asian then just decided that. o_O;

Another thing that I can’t really wear is dark eyeshadows, especially dark blues. I have brown-black eyes with pretty bad dark circles; and dark eyeshadows generally do make me look tired. This one is an easy fix, though, I just pop some natural-looking brown or gray contacts and I would instantly look lifted. 🙂

I’ve been losing respect for the MUAS up here. I went in to get matched at our MAC counter and got told I was medium + in skinfinish natrual when I wear NC 15…

A lot of times the really bold and bright purple or pink lipsticks people are like ‘oh god who would wear that” but I can pull them off. Like I will wear the Venomous Villains Maleficent dark purple lipstick and gloss and most people see those in the tubes and go WOAH, NO lol.

I also get told to wear warmer blushes since I have warmer skin (olive under tones) but most of them make my skin look REALLY flushed and red and not flattering =(

I’ve been told to not wear too dark of eye makeup, which i agree with to a sense. I never wear black eyeshadow. But more often than not, I’m wearing a bronze or brown smokey eye. I’ve also been told to wear grey eyeshadow, which makes my eyes look really red. And I’ve been told to always wear pink blush. I tend to look like I’ve been slapped if I wear pink blush (even light stuff like Mac well dressed!) so I tend to go for the warmer colours which I’ve been told to stay away from with my extremely pale cool-toned skin. I love bronze, peach, copper, chocolate, gold, olive, etc for the eyes, and peach like nars sex appeal or deep throat for the cheeks.

I’ve been told that milky pink lips and creamsicle oranges are icky on me. I agree on the oranges but I just love milky pink too much to stay away!

When I was in high school, my mother made it abundantly clear to me that I could only wear neutrals with my blue eyes, pigmented lips, dark hair, and ghostly pale skin (to clarify what I mean by this, I have only tried one brand of foundation that seems pale enough for me, Revlon’s PhotoReady – anything else is too dark and shows up yellow or pink, and I’ve flat-out given up on finding a concealer). She insisted, multiple times, that any colour at all would be “horribly garish, and you’ll look like a prostitute”. Since she flat-out encouraged my tanned, blonde younger sister to experiment with colours of all sorts, it honestly scared me away from make-up all together for years and I went through high school with only mascara and clear lip balm as a result. It wasn’t until I was I started university two years ago that I began to branch out and experiment with colours – walked into a MAC store one afternoon because I’d heard wonderful things about lipglass, and it was a slower afternoon so the saleslady tried to talk me into a deeper wine-colored lip. I was hesitant, made the “mistake” of mentioning that “I don’t really, um, do colour” and she spent the next hour and a half proving me wrong. I ended up adoring the lip and shadows she suggested, and spent the next few months experimenting with as much colour as I could. Approached one part of my face at a time (started with lips, moved to blush, and finally to eyes) until I was at the point where I could put together multiple looks on a whim. In a sense my mother was right – there ARE shades I can’t pull off. I never did figure out how to deal with green, and most purples tend to make me look bruised and tired, bringing out the circles around my eyes. So I do spend a lot of time working around my skin colour as highlighters and bronzers can only do so much and if I’m not careful, colours can look a bit clownish! I found, though, that pops of colour are definitely the way to go for me. Vibrant liners are a favourite, paired with more neutral shadows. At the moment I’m in love with Urban Decay’s Toasted eyeshadow with a teal liner, ELF’s coral blush and a slightly darker lip (loving Tarte’s lip stain in Moody). Still not that bold, to be fair, but it’s miles better than before!

Aw, it’s a shame to hear you were discouraged for so long with colors! I’ve got similar coloring to you, though my eyes are green-gray, and I’ve always done well with jewel tones. I’m not a huge fan of smokey eyes or using colors that are very dark or blackened. But vibrant jewel tones in the right shades make my eyes pop, sit well with my dark hair and brows, and are fun!

Yeah, I find that I need to be very careful with smokey eyes in general, wearing them lightly if at all; anything too dark brings out the circles around my eyes. It is very easy to accidentally make myself look like I’ve got a black eye, either! I think that’s a hazard of pale skin in general. Jewel tones are very fun – a bit of my colorphobia still lingers and I prefer to restrict them to liners, but they tend to pull the look together so nicely.

I’ve been told to wear less foundation. And like I care! I will cake it on if I want to! I’ve also been told to lighten up on the eyeliner. I usually do a really thick black wing for daytime. Once again, I do what I want. Hahaha. But because I’m more of a medium yellow for skintone, I can’t do the super light milky lavender or pastel pink lips like lighter people can, and for this I agree. I just look really stupid when I try them on. I really like the look of it on lighter people though. =/ To make up for it, I wear ultra sparkly and bright eyeshadow on a daily basis, which I also get a lot of flack for. Haha.

I can’t wear purples or coppers that turn too orangey. I love coppers though! It just makes me look hungover or something lmao =/

My experience with orange and copper is similar, as I look ill with these as well. (I was warned by an expert for the effect, and in my case, she’s right) What colour are your eyes?

I was told as a 40+ woman I should NEVER wear metallic eyeshadows. Whatever. I’ll do what brings me joy. Look away if you are offended.

I was told the same thing (as a 40 yr old woman) and I think the metallic shadow makes my eyes sparkle. Granted – I only wear it on my lid, but still…

I don’t know that I’ve ever gotten any advice to that end, so I’m either doing it well enough, or I’m so bad at makeup, no one knows where to begin with the advice! XD

Yellow and golden nail polish. I have red hair and NW20-25 skin. There’s been several times when I’ve worn a golden color and been told my nails look like they have a fungal infection. What sucks is that I have several golds/yellows for pricer brands. Like the Chanel Gold Lamé… Oh well, I have a friend with Indian heritage, Asian Indian not Native American, and golds are STUNNING on her. Might just pass them over to her.

No one has ever told me that I couldn’t wear a certain color, but because I like to think that I’m quite “conservative” when it comes to experimenting with color in my makeup routine (I’d normally choose colors that go well with my skintone) I’d personally tell myself that I can’t wear these colors, but whenever I receive colors like mint green or royal blue eyeshadows, I’d test them out in my room and more often I would be surprised to see that it wasn’t THAT bad at all. 🙂

I can’t think of anyone telling me I shouldn’t wear this color, or that color. I tend to just go by the basic rules…color schemes, complimentary colors, and never wear bold eye makeup with a bold lip.

On a similar note, my long-time friend has a motto for her make-up routine: “less is classy, more is trashy”. While she’s never, ever, ever eeevverrr said anything like that directed toward me, it still makes me paranoid to wear bright color eyeshadow or lipstick around her (but I do anyway)! Although, she is the kind of friend that will say – nicely – exactly what is on her mind, so I know I’m paranoid for nothing! She would have said something by now!

lets see. I wore a red lip for the first time for my birthday. I felt awesome in it , but I asked a friend what did she think of it. She told me I was too dark for the color . O_o. People like telling me not to wear bright shadows but ….. I love them and they look great on me.

i’ve been told not to wear black mascara. because i’m a redhead i should go for browns. black would be to harsh and unnatural for me. I happen to love my black mascara and honestly the one time i tried brown it lookt horrible.

I don’t think I’ve ever been told not to wear anything.

My approach to makeup is working with what’s flattering and elegant, so maybe its because I’m conservative. *shrug*

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