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It really depends on the person offering the advice. Someone who has really horrible makeup application? No, their opinion means very little. Someone who does their own makeup very well? I take what they say to heart. A douchey guy who seems to make it his mission to insult me once a day at work, every day, and unfortunately recently got seated right across from me? No, his opinion means less than Spongebob’s to me.

That is so true; someone elses opinion or a great ad or look in a magazine is enough for me to go buy it all. Unfortunately, I’m cut off with buying any more cosmetics for who knows how long ever since I bought all of Armani’s Eyes to Kill shadows because my husband thinks I must be nuts! However, I do hate it when I’m all made up for some affair that I have to go to and that someone who asked me about everything I wear shows up looking like my ‘twin’. Same with perfume, I’ll tell someone and then everyone ends up smelling like me; now I say as little as possible. I don’t mean to be crabby about it but hey, get your own look kind of feeling. My sister says I should be flattered and feel complimented not annoyed but it’s weird when everyone looks or smells like you.

Christine, what you said about your family is so beautiful. You are very lucky to have such a wonderful supportive family.

My mum likes me au natural as well. One thing she has always told me is that I do my make-up beautifully, even though I don’t need it. Well, YEA, I do need it! I mean, I’m usually natural for daily wear with a pop of colour here and there and a lot more dramatic for an evening out or a special event.

Yes and no about other people’s opinions on my makeup and if it influences me. Most of the comments I get are either I do my make-up nicely (as I said above I’m natural most of the time), I have nice brows (I fill them in), my eyebrows are too much (I can tend to over-fill) and I wear a nice dark lip. I don’t mind comments on my make-up, it boosts my self-esteem. Those that want to give their negative opinions, I usually smile and walk on. I’m not perfect, I’ll never be perfect but when I walk out the house I want people to see me for who I am and not the make-up I throw on 🙂

I was fully prepared to say “no, no way,” then I read your answer. if I’m going to be around my grandparents, I definitely make sure to wear a more natural look, solely because my grandfather has no problem with making rude comments if I wear anything other than neutral colors.

By personal taste, I love makeup that’s very neutral, classy and understated, with a touch of drama every now and then, so I don’t have a problem regarding self-consciousness with bright colours, etc, on my face, but I don’t really like it when people say that makeup is “shallow” or “bitchy” or a “waste of time/just to impress men”, etc. I think that’s a really false generalisation usually based on other people’s problems with people who have been mean to them personally.

I also do feel a little self-conscious at the idea of wearing makeup around certain family members who are very thrifty, and would see makeup as an “indulgence” and “glamorous” – I don’t like the idea of it affecting their perception of who I am, just because I like to present myself well and look my best.

Apart from that, no, I don’t think it changes my taste in makeup, though I would feel self-conscious being around people who were disapproving of it, if that makes sense.

yes! sometimes i’ll form an opinion on something and never think i’ll like it but i’ll see someone i like use it or talk about it and all the sudden i changed my mind!

Somewhat. There are situations involving circumstances or people where keeping things toned down is the more tenable option, such as a first date. (Or having a sister who is very blunt and opinionated about appearance and dress. :P) On the other hand, I take full advantage of the fact that I work night shift in a hospital with consistent staff to get away with wearings things like MAC’s Potent Fig to work – something that I’m sure wouldn’t fly for a lot of people here.

My mother’s comment that light blue eyeshadow is awful has led me to dislike it. I don’t think my family’s attitudes have had a huge impact, I’ve always had a bit more interest in cosmetics than my mother sister or closest cousin. But I guess to some extent their tastes have rubbed off on me.

Other people’s opinions influence me to a very, VERY small degree. The opinions of people close to me will always be more important than some total stranger or SA/MA. When it comes to matters of personal taste, though, no one’s opinion really matters except for mine. I wear what I like and what feels comfortable/appropriate for me in certain settings. Everyone has their own style and preferences, and I think that is something that should be respected. Constructive comments/criticism is cool with me when voiced in a polite manner. If someone I don’t know doesn’t like my style/preference in makeup, cool, I don’t care… I don’t see why people waste their time shooting dirty looks or making rude comments. It’s makeup, it’s really not that serious, lol. I remember one time I was wearing colorful eye makeup, and this girl wearing 10lbs of neutral-toned makeup told me my makeup wasn’t natural looking, and that only shades of brown were acceptable. LOL. I literally just sat there and laughed so hard for like three minutes straight.

Every person should wear what they like and feel comfortable wearing. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, but the people that matter really shouldn’t and most likely aren’t going to care what makeup you’re wearing.

Lol!!!!! People are ridiculous. Like oh, I apologize, I didn’t realize my purple lipstick was keeping you from living a happy and fulfilling life, so sorry!

No. Most of the feedback I get (which is fairly infrequent) is positive and I don’t think anyone who actually knows me would be foolish enough to say anything negative or derogatory to my face.
If a stranger or passing aquaintance said anything critical, I wouldn’t care to hear their opinion anyway and would politely tell them so, then invite them to mind their own business in future.

One of my unhappy memories is of when two of my ‘friends’ were sat on the train with me saying that people who took long with their makeup were wasting their time, that foundation looked bad, just basically slagging makeup off saying it made people look ugly – and I was there with full foundation on, right in front of them. It was so insensitive, I’m deeply insecure about my appearance and makeup really helps me. I really changed my opinion of them after that.

I wouldn’t judge someone who didn’t wear a scrap of makeup – why should I be judged because I wear a whole face of it?

I study English literature at university, and the extent to which women + makeup = profane, disgusting etc. (without going into detail on here) is shocking, and I really and truly feel that the misogynistic, archaic structures that underpin all social conditioning still exist as strongly as ever when it comes to feminine expression of identity and beauty.

In short, although I don’t wear dramatic makeup, I feel completely judged by strangers because I wear foundation, powder, eyemakeup and lipstick, however neutral the colours are. People still distrust makeup as artifice and it bothers me.

Wow, there’s a makeup opinion that just affected me. I never thought of it that way (negative views of makeup as misogynistic).
1. That was horrible of your friends.
2. This was a very cohesive argument, and actually makes me feel less embarrassed about how much makeup I wear.
3. Thank you!

Not at all ! I usually use ” ready-to-wear ” shades and colours, but I choose to wear a very deep red lipstick for example, I never ask anyone I just do it. It’s the same for fragrances !

it’ll influence me to wear less, but i’m usually pretty good at going for the natural look on my own too! no one as of yet has been able to influence me to step out of the box too much!

Totally but in a good way. I don’t wear heavy makeup to work as my skin not perfect (no ones is) but i work with a small group that most go o natural.

I basically only bust out the full looks for events I’m going to. ^_^

I’m always influenced by others opinion :), i never wear loud makeup or extremely dramatic looks bcoz coworkers and even family dont approve of it.But public opinion has also helped a lot in helping me find out the best looks and colours for my face and colour…so im 3/4 part grateful for their help and 1/4 part exasperated when i cant experiment beyond my comfort zone in public.

Other opinions definitely influence me. I’ve bought a lot more makeup because I see something I like on a blog. And if I read that something is crap, I’ll either skip or look at it with caution.

I wouldn’t stop wearing something just because someone said they didn’t like it, if I wanted to wear it. Before now my dad has looked at me like I’m a crazy person when I’ve been wearing more full on make up for a night out, but I wouldn’t change it because I love a good smoky eye for the evening. But on the other hand, if I get compliments on something I’m using from my fiance (yes he does notice these things!) or my mum/ sister/ friend, it does tend to make me wear it more. I sort of take that as meaning I must suit it.

Not at all! I always read those “guys like women better without makeup” well screw them, I don’t need a man! I am a hairdresser so I don’t really need to be work appropriate with my makeup and honestly the only persons opinion that matters is yourself!

No. I wear whatever I feel like. If those people are family, sometimes I wear the the makeup that person likes to let him/her know that I care about him/her.

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