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Oh yes, most definitely! My Mom never had a stash or even near it, but she was always “done up” unless she had the flu or something drastic like that. Plus, when I was little, it was the 60’s. Valley Of The Dolls era. Cocktail parties. Barbie dolls, and Twiggy. Liz Taylor. Glamour was literally everywhere you looked. Heck, even my Hippie cousins wore makeup! The 70’s began to usher in the “natural look”, makeup went through a phase of less is more. The 80’s with their excesses came when I turned 20, and I welcomed it with open arms!

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My mom didn’t wear make up but my sister did so when she had make up she didn’t want she would just give it to me. I started wearing make up out when I was 14 so that was pretty young but my sister was really supportive.

When I was growing up, none of my family or friends wore makeup, except for my mom, but only on special occasions, and it was just lipstick. Makeup was seen as something frivolous, unnecessary, superficial. My mom did let me wear makeup starting in high school. But this was way before the internet or you tube even existed (yes, I’m ancient), so I learned about makeup and application skills on my own, by looking at teen magazines or thru trial and error. And believe me, there was a lot of errors, and most the DS products back then were truly horrible (sheer-as- dust shadows, dry-as-a rock eyeliners, orange foundations, frosty lipsticks) , so I cringe thinking about some the makeup looks I came up with LOL

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Not in the least bit! I have no memory of seeing the adult females in my life interact with makeup. The idea of “makeup” came to me by chance. At the age of 19, someone had randomly given me a kaboodle kit filled with [Avon] makeup for Christmas, and I’d been on my own to figure out how to use it all. I’d grown up with nothing but males in my life (Dad and brothers), so being girly was quite the struggle. Thanks to the development of YouTube and makeup blogs, I was able to figure it all. I’m glad that I did.

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Definitely, at least for a while. My mom was one of those 2nd wave (I think it was 2nd wave, sometimes I mix them up, but the ones from the 70’s) feminists who rejected feminine things and thought of them as lesser. Combine that with her not really wanting kids and seeing anything “extra” with us as a chore, and my sister and I learned really quick that girly = bad. My older sister was the rebellious one so she of course embraced all things girly for a while out of spite, but as an adult pretty much stopped wearing makeup at all. I was the opposite and it took me getting out of the house (and into some really good gender studies classes) for me to re-evaluate my view of the “feminine”. I started realizing that it was actually anti-feminist (at least the current wave) to be anti-feminine, and that I really liked embracing my femininity. Particularly after I got sick a few years back, it became a cornerstone of my identity, which included liking makeup/beauty/skincare/fashion/etc.

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Oh, also to add more to my rambles, now that I have the relationship with my mom of an “adult daughter to adult mother” or whatever it is, she’s actually gotten into makeup and skincare a bit as well, which I find pretty awesome. I did her makeup last time she visited and we went and got her some as well!

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I grew up in that era of your mum and for a while it was thought that if you were a feminist you couldn’t be feminine – eg wear makeup. However I believed in the feminist ideals of self determination and choice, BUT I also loved my makeup and no movement was going to tell me not to wear makeup. The movement became very rigid and inflexible at this point. I am really pleased to read that now you both enjoy a good relationship.

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Yeah, it is so interesting to learn about the different waves of feminism, and how they differed, and why they were the way they were. It makes sense in a way that there was a backlash on all things feminine, because it was really the first wave that was fighting for more than the vote, and they kind of had to be seen as equals to men to get things done, and at that point could only really come close by acting like men of the time did. My mom had pretty negative attitudes towards things like stay-at-home moms as well, as they were occupying a space that was “feminine” and in her eyes were then lesser. I can see why women needed that stage of feminism to get to where we are now, but I’m also very grateful I get to be a part of the latest wave instead of hers, as it’s a lot more inclusive and also a lot more socially acceptable than it was for her to be a feminist. A part of why I got so interested in makeup was the cultural anthropology classes I was taking along with the history and gender ones, as looking at this broad spectrum of human existence and seeing “gender performativity” in all of it was sooo fascinating. That’s one of the reasons I really like Lisa Eldridge’s “Face Paint” book as well.

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My parents always fully supported and indulged my obsession with makeup–from one of my earliest memories of a preschool-age birthday with a toy (fake) makeup kit–which I think developed as independently as possible from my mom’s own use of it. I would play with hers, but wouldn’t try to copy or emulate her. Mostly I tried to make myself look like I was starring in “Cats”…

When I was young, I used to ask my Mama why she wears makeup even when she was just going to the grocery or the market. And now I do the same thing! I was definitely influenced by her — she always made sure she always looks good wherever she goes.

Same as you Christine! My mom still does not wear makeup, to this day. Actually, I did just help her pick out her first MAC lipstick ever a couple weeks ago. 🙂 But she never spoke negatively. When i was in high school and wanted to wear it, she let me. And then the obsession started……..

Ever since I could remember, my mom always wore a full face of makeup. Her bathroom was always stocked with products so i experimented a lot with makeup growing up. I guess I always thought that wearing makeup was normal and expected.

While I was growing up my mom always wore makeup, especially colored eyeliner. Even being a stay at home mom while we grew up, every morning she woke up early and put on make up, and fixed her hair, which is something I admire. Even when I go out sometimes I just don’t feel like doing much. But my mother and I are both totally obsessed, and it is nice to have something we both love so much. Always someone to go to Ulta or Sephora with, and we always show each other new launches, collections, upcoming releases, good sales, obscure brands that we find. I love that we share our make up obsession! (She checks Temptalia every day just like I do! lol)

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My mother definitely wore makeup, but she didn’t want her daughters to wear makeup before the age of 18. Of course, since it was “forbidden” I was fascinated by makeup and would wear makeup during high school; just made sure that I washed it off before I went home. When I had two daughters of my own, my own rules were no makeup other than lip balm before 8th grade, and I also stressed to them to leave their eyebrows alone as much as possible, because I made the dumb mistake of plucking too much from the head of my brows in my 20s and they’ve never grown back (and I have to fill them in every day). They also had plenty of examples of badly plucked and over plucked eyebrows to look at in their father’s side of the family, so they heeded my eyebrow advice other than some basic cleaning up of the shape. My girls are high schoolers now and don’t wear much makeup beyond a CC cream with SPF 50 (I’ve always stressed sun protection) and a winged eyeliner. I’m actually a lot more adventurous with makeup than they are.

It surprisingly didn’t. My dad is very vocal in his opinions but at the end of the day, he let’s me do my thing. He is all about natural beauty, he dislikes earrings, piercings and tattoos. (He calls it self-mutilation). When it comes to make-up, he calls it paint. He prefers paint on a canvas, not on my face. He used to comment on every lipstick I wore but I think he has accepted it now and he understand that I like painting and colors…

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No. It made absolutely no impact despite the fact my mother comes from the original “Makeup is Evil” wailing banshee group. Surely wearing it will kill and cast your pathetic treacherous soul into the 9th level of hell.

Yeah, not so much.

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My mom is a very simple lady, even when it comes to makeup. She put very little in but she looks so pretty, I think that’s how I picked up on it. Now whenever I wear makeup, I like to use things that would just bring out my features a little more.

She didn’t talk about makeup in a negative way either, she didn’t shame makeup or makeup users. Growing up, people had shamed the use of makeup and my sister in law shames it. I don’t really care, I just love it and it makes me happy.

No. My mother didn’t wear it either and didn’t say anything about me wearing it, though it was pretty minimal in my teens.
My daughter has had access to my makeup all her life and most of the time she goes barefaced and only bothers with it for a special occasion or just for a change. I’m glad she sees it as a fun and creative outlet as opposed to a necessity. I’ve tried to be careful to keep her from thinking she has to wear it to look good, and I’ve always told her she’s beautiful so she knows she doesn’t NEED it.

Not at all. My mum had good skin and used standard good skincare of the time, but her color cosmetics were very limited. Revlon Fire and Ice, Cherries in the Snow, under five. Slight taupe brow pencil. No cheek color, eye color, masc, or foundation. My MGM had far more: cream rouge, foundation, subdued rose lipsticks, primarily Germaine Monteil, a little Arden. My PGM never owned any. She was from NS, and a major pro-animal bluestocking. I can thank the other grandmother for the addictive tendencies, though. I started makeup on my own, crushing wild berries and applying to face and lips as a preschooler. There was some weed that had orange powder on the underleaf. Apply to eyelids. Think I was 4, and think it related to role playing, in all those plays I dictatorially roped all the neighbor kids into. Know I’ve said I rode my bike to a nearby village to get my first l/s, sound age 9 or 10, probably to hide the fact.

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I don’t think it did. My parents seem to feel neutral about makeup and haven’t said anything negative about the bold, colorful looks I’ve done before. My mom only wears makeup on rare occasions and it’s only mascara and a lip gloss or tinted balm, so I was never really exposed to makeup from a young age beyond those products. They made me wait until I was about 14 to start wearing makeup and I’d only wear eyeliner or a lipstick, and I think I’d still say 14 is a decent age to start playing with makeup.

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I grew up in a very liberal family, so it was pretty clear that there would be no judgement. My mother, a very intelligent and hard working woman, always wore makeup, so there was no association with “Makeup = superficial”.
I for one love and wear makeup a lot, my sister barely does. Both was accepted.
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For me it was more about not wanting to be like my high maintenance, appearance-driven mother. I mean, I obviously have an interest in cosmetics since I read this board and own a ton of products, but the goal has been to enhance my appearance in a subtle way, without surgery or even fillers.

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