The Temptalia family is wishing all of our mothers–fur-moms, aunts, uncles, grandmothers, sisters, friends, mentors, and all those amazing people in our lives that nurture and foster our dreams, hopes, and passions–the most wonderful day of the year! We love and appreciate you everyday of the year (okay, maybe not every day, sometimes you drive us batty!), but especially today with extra hugs and kisses.
3 Things My Mom Taught Me About Beauty
Beauty comes from the inside. I actually wasn’t allowed to wear makeup growing up, so I didn’t get into makeup until I went away to college (so just when I turned 18). While I didn’t get to learn about how to apply makeup from my mom, she taught me that beauty is about more than what you put on your face, and I think it’s a really great lesson to have taught to you over and over again growing up.
Cross your fingers for good genes. My mother doesn’t wear makeup, and she doesn’t have any crazy skincare routine. In fact, I’m not really sure what she did for skincare prior to me being a beauty blogger. She only wears sunscreen when she goes to the beach and yet has very few signs of aging at 50+. She just reminds me that for all the lotions and potions I buy, genetics may be the one thing I have to hang my hat on and just hope for.
“Flaws” are signs of character. It took me almost twenty years to come to terms with my beauty mark (the larger one, by my nose). For years, I waffled over whether to remove it or not. I didn’t feel insecure about it until my early teens, because my parents never made me feel that way growing up. They always referred to it as a beauty mark, which I think has a very different connotation than the word “mole.” She would tell me it made me unique and more beautiful.
3 Reasons Why I Appreciate My Mom
She is my mentor. My Mom has held C-level executive positions throughout her career. She has a bachelor’s degree, three masters’ degrees, and is currently working on her PhD. There is no one who motivates and encourages me more to continually better myself than her, because she truly does lead by example.
Who I am today is because of her. (And my Dad!) I owe so much to both my parents for instilling good values and beliefs that have helped guide me to make the right decisions to get me to where I am today. I’m often asked how I’m able to balance everything, and I think it’s because of an internalized desire to prioritize, plan, and schedule. When I was little, I had a big easel with a daily schedule written out–when to play, do homework, eat dinner, have a bath, and so on.
She is my #1 supporter. There is nothing that I can’t do, according to my Mom. She thinks I’m capable of anything I want to do and that kind of unwavering confidence and support has been key. I’m not afraid to dream big or pursue lofty goals, because I know I have her support and she will always be there for me if I make a mistake.
Feel free to share any lessons you’ve learned and the like in the comments!
My mom actually was so touched my words/post this morning that she wanted to reply with some of her own:
What mother would not have cried reading her daughter’s note like the above? Christine, you made me cried buckets of happy tears reading it (and I am not the crying kind). I also feel compelled to join this conversation. I hope it is all okay with all of you, Christine’s readers, who are one of her sources of strength and inspiration.
First, to all the furry and non-furry sons and daughters, it is you that make us ‘mothers’ so a big heartfelt thank you!
The learning goes both ways, so I want to share the three things I learn from Christine:
Love is given freely but respect is earned: it is often assumed that our kids must love and respect parents or vice versa. I love her unconditionally, but until I saw how she is building her life and the incredible amount of work, effort and dedication she puts in Temptalia, I also developed a deep respect for her. I can’t do what she does, and I really don’t know how she does it all! I learned that I need to earn her respect, too, as a parent and a human being. The love and the respect expressed in Christine’s note meant more than anything else. She is both a daughter and a friend whom I want to hang out with.
Power of “Letting go”: this must be one of the hardest lesson that I learned. Let go of my ‘baby’ and let her take risks and create a new independent life, away from “mommy,” was so difficult. I hurt when I read nasty comments about her and had to resist answering those unkind and false accusations. When she tells me about some challenges that she needs to deal with, I want desperately to rush in and tell her to let me “take care of it.” I learned to rise above these emotions and resist these temptations; and I would give her advice but leave her to make her own decisions. I learned that in letting go both she and I have become stronger people and our relationship seems to get stronger too. I must admit that this is very difficult thing to do since I still find it difficult as I am going through this with my younger daughter right now.
Hope for the future of our world: when I was a child and my parents would push me to do this or that, , I would give them a hard time and resist their efforts! They would always tell me that it is because they want me “‘to be smarter and do better than them.” I did not quite understand that lesson until I saw how Christine and my younger daughter are doing today – they both have achieved so much more than what I did at their age. Can you imagine how the future of the world will be when the current generation is so much more creative and smarter than the previous generation? And that gives me hope that the future of the world is in good hands.
A big virtual hug to all the sons and daughters out there!
If you’ve caught some of the more recent review posts, you’ll notice a new rating system is in place. I’ve long wanted to change the criteria within the rating system, and the time has come to do so. Though these have always been part of the review–just not so transparently–I’ve decided on a new set of parameters to provide you better insight on where points are going (or getting lost) and really providing an overall score that is representative of the product. I also felt that it was time to make our system more distinct and truly ours as rating systems have gained popularity over time.
The biggest change is in the removal of the “value” metric, which I had always based a product’s price/quantity ratio compared against the average price/quantity ratio of similar products from comparable brands. From using value in the rating system for the past couple of years, I’ve found that value is simply too subjective. Some are looking for quantity, others are looking at low final cost–even if you get a metric ton of blush. One person may find a $10 eyeshadow is cheap, while another finds $15 outlandish. I will, of course, continue to talk about value and in particular, speak on products that really fall below or above, but it will be in the written review and not a component of the total score.
I hope you enjoy the new rating system! It is our hope that it will make it easier to understand our overall grades and provide a more helpful summary when you are not sure you want to read the whole post!
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PRODUCT looks at whether the product does what it is supposed to do. If it’s a curling mascara, did it curl? If it’s waterproof, was it?
PIGMENTATION looks at whether the product is as pigmented as it is supposed to be. Products that are supposed to be sheer will not get 0/10 because they are not pigmented–I am looking for the level of pigmentation to be in sync with the product’s description.
TEXTURE looks at whether the product has a good consistency for the type (e.g. you wouldn’t want a gritty cream blush, right?) and how it contributes to a better product.
LONGEVITY looks at how well and long a product wears. If a product is supposed to last all day, does it?
APPLICATION looks at how easy the product is to apply–do you have to experiment with ten different eyeshadow bases to get the eyeshadow to pop? Is it difficult to blend?
PACKAGING looks at functionality, sturdiness, and overall appeal. This is less about whether it’s pretty (as “pretty” to me may be ugly to you!) and more about if it pumps out an appropriate amount, if it will withstand being tossed in a purse, and so forth.
There is a total of 50 points available, and once actual points are totaled, a final letter grade is assessed, which you will find on the lower right corner of The Glossover. Directly to the right of each component of the rating system will be my final thoughts–just as before–but displayed in a more eye-catching format. The “where to buy” component will now be listed above The Glossover, which is typically the end of the written review.
We do recognize that there are some product categories (notably, hair care and skin care) that do not fit within this rating system, and we are still determining whether certain categories really require a rating system (like fragrance or skin care) and/or need their own rating system.
Over the next few weeks, I will be moving through past reviews to bring those rating systems moved over to the new system. I expect only slight variations in grades–particular for products that were either very below or above value–but otherwise, the overall grades are getting clarified and refined.
Updated @ 11:49AM PST: We tweaked font sizes and colors and hope that it has satisfied at least some of your concerns. Thanks!
Launching in June, we’re bringing you exclusive content, editorials, and in-depth testing by our expert panels. We’ll showcase how the newest products can work for you by using a variety of models representing the full spectrum of skin tones. Expect tips and tricks by highly talented artists and industry professionals–that will work for you, even if you won’t be walking the red carpet any time soon!
With over four years’ worth of content (8,997 posts to-date!), it can be difficult to navigate through past content. We try do categorize/tag posts as appropriate, but we also use our sidebar to highlight certain categories, features, or posts that we think are helpful or “most wanted” in a sense. We have always had these, but based on your feedback, you can now find the following tabs in our sidebar (which is on nearly every page!):
LAUNCHES shows the eight most recent posts for new collections and product launches from all brands.
MAC LAUNCHES shows the eight most recent posts for new MAC collections and product launches.
DRUGSTORE REVIEWS shows the eight most recent reviews for drugstore/budget beauty products (we also have a category for all budget beauty reviews under Features).
FEATURES shows the various extras we have available to readers–like the Foundation Matrix and the Dupe List–so you can always get to them quickly.
REVIEWS BY RATING shows all of the rating tags (which have always been in place) but in one spot, so you can browse by rating with ease. (Please keep in mind, however, that we did not rate products from the beginning, so not all reviews are rated and therefore do not show up through these tags.)
AFFILIATES shows various retailers that Temptalia has an affiliate relationship with. If you want to help support Temptalia, when you click through one of the affiliate links and make a purchase, we will receive a small percentage (2-5% typically) of your purchase total.
This is only a temporary FAQ, as we work to build a robust question and answer system that enables better searching and the like, I wanted to take a moment to point it out, because it has quite a lot of information. There are over 200 questions and answers ranging from typical questions (when did Temptalia start? what does Temptalia mean?) to many answers about product recommendations. The FAQ is not exhaustive and consists of questions that are, naturally, more general in nature.
I urge you to check it out and–for now–do a quick search for your question (something like CTRL+F). If you have a question that is not answered by the FAQ, please free to ask it here. If you are looking for dupe, one excellent place to start is The Dupe List. I’m always happy to answer any questions that have not been addressed elsewhere, so feel free to ask here.
I am no longer answering questions about dupes, recommendations, etc. through e-mail; you must use our Formspring, which is a Q&A service. You do not have to register, and unless you do, they are anonymous. I look forward to answering your questions–just note that while I work to answer quickly and frequently, it may take a few days (which is why we have built so many resource posts and features, to help answer potential questions instantly).